To grow you need to own your own statements.

Because that means you own your own thinking. This is an expression of confidence. It shows you dare to think and you dare to put it out there. Think on this. Chess is a game where your thinking is on display. So if you have the courage to do this, you'll also have the courage to face your fears. The failure to do this is shown up by excuses ie self sabotage. Think on this. Show us what you have. Dont hide. I promise you that if you can do that you will be a stronger chess player.