The obvious answer

When we are thinking instinctively, our fight or flight response kicks in. And as I have argued fear closes the mind to learning. Our aim is of course to win. And so we try to win every argument, win every battle, every game and every tournament. The ego kicks in. The consequence of that is that we lose in the long run. A Pyrrhic victory. Why? To win, you have to learn, to open your mind, to experiment ie to lose some battles, to join the dots. When you have learned enough, the consequence of that, is you win. Is that obvious or not so obvious?