This is exactly Msian way of looking at things. But the best part was the ending will not be the same like the story. In M'sia, no one actually admit that it was own wrong doing that leads to the sad ending. It's always other people faults, nothing to do with ownself. Just like the ASEAN training that u organise.
I am sorry that is your M'sian experience. May I suggest that you try to find good partners in your next venture. You maybe surprised at the different experience so long as you remain open to changing your views.