Sacrifice after being trapped- A FGM commentary.

Very often, all they have to do is to trap and break you once to finish you off. 

As the saying goes, once a horse is broken, it can be ridden by any rider.

If they cause you to make a public attack against your conscience you have entered that trap. If you accept their promise for your child/sibling a backdoor entry, you have entered that trap. If they pay you money to vote in a certain way you have entered the trap etc etc.

Why? Because to get out of that trap you now need to come clean. And that is not easy for many chess players  I know. But lets see how the poison spreads from here if you don't. You now have to defend that lie. So you have to learn how to rationalise, justify, make excuses and tell more lies to defend that first lie.

After sufficient time you even start to believe that lie. 

That now becomes the way you habitually think. And you will apply that thinking to your chess too. It is inevitable. And after awhile your chess will also become a lie.

But you don't have to let that one mistake define you for the rest of your life. Chess teaches us a way out. You can correct that mistake. Admit that mistake first to someone close that you trust. That is enough. That is the first step back to regaining your integrity and dignity. And then try to make what restitution that you can to correct that first mistake when you are able.

It's a sacrifice to breakout of that trap. But it's a worthwhile sacrifice in my mind. Better that than to remain trapped for life. Having to twist and lie every time the subject is brought up. And better than watching your chess go down the tube because now you cannot face the truth.